The terrible threes
The Myth: Boy meets girl. Boy dates girl. Boy loves girl. Girl loves boy. They get married and live happily ever after.
Not so fast.
Three of my male friends at different stages of commitment have the same problem. And they’re all coming to me for advice.
One guy has been married for three years. He loves his wife, they’re best friends. But he complains about their sex life and says it’s more like living with a roommate than a spouse. He’s actively looking for a “mistress.”
Guy number two is getting married in 6 months. He’s been dating his fiancee for three years. They’re in the midst of preparing for the wedding, but he’s not very excited. Anytime anyone asks him about his future he repeats that she’s a very nice girl and it’s time. The other day he confided to me that he hooked up with some random chick after a late night drinking with the guys.
Moving on to guy number three… he’s been dating his girlfriend for 3 years, living with her this last year. They’ve been fighting a lot lately. She wants to get married and he… he’s not sure. He needs more time. He just doesn’t know. He loves her, but……
All of a sudden I’m the cliche Queen – ‘Look within yourself.’ ‘Honor your commitment.’ ‘If it’s meant to be it’ll all work out.’ ‘Love conquers all.’ ‘The grass may not be greener on the other side of that fence.’ ‘It’s a jungle out there.’ ‘All you need is love?’
I’ve known all of these guys for a really long time. They aren’t evil… they’re not players…. not pigs…… just a little confused. WHAT are they thinking coming to ME for advice? I’m single!
Anyone want to impart some words of wisdom I can pass on to these mixed up souls?